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Consent Is Ongoing: consent lesson
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Say “No. I’m done,” then step away toward friends or staff. Practice the moment in a short Surefoot lesson.
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You’re at a party with friends, and someone you’ve been flirting with starts getting closer. When you pause, they keep pushing even after you say you’re not into it.
Repeated pressure after a refusal
What’s the best move when someone keeps pushing after you refuse?
- Keep explaining until they get it
- Say “No. I’m done. I’m leaving” and step away
- Stand your ground and argue back and forth
- Try to make them understand your reasons
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Say “No. I’m done. I’m leaving” and step away
Consent is something you choose again and again. If you say no or you’re not sure, the other person should stop, give you space, and let you decide. Repeated pressure after a refusal is a red flag. You can end the moment and move toward friends or staff, without arguing or explaining.
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Say “No. I’m done,” then step away toward friends or staff.
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“No. I’m done. I’m leaving.”
Sources: RAINN
Questions about “Consent Is Ongoing”
Why is saying no and walking away the best response to persistent pressure?
Saying "No. I'm done. I'm leaving" and stepping away immediately stops the interaction and removes you from persistent pressure. Leaving creates physical distance and moves you toward the safety of friends or venue staff without leaving room for further debate.
Source: RAINN
What can you say to someone who keeps pushing after you refuse?
You can firmly state, "No. I'm done. I'm leaving," to set a clear boundary and end the conversation. Direct phrases prevent the other person from treating your refusal as a negotiation.
Source: RAINN
What should you do if someone follows you after you walk away?
You should immediately head toward a crowd, locate staff, or find trusted friends for support. If you feel unsafe or in immediate danger, call 911 or campus safety right away.
Source: RAINN
Why should you avoid arguing or explaining your reasons when refusing someone?
Explaining your reasons gives the other person opportunities to negotiate, argue, or continue pressuring you. You do not owe anyone an explanation or justification for setting a personal boundary.
Source: RAINN
How can you support a friend who experienced persistent pressure at a party?
You can support a friend by listening without judgment, validating their feelings, and helping them reach a safe space. Reassure them that they did nothing wrong and offer to stay with them as long as needed.
Source: RAINN
Last updated October 12, 2026.